So in the spirit of positive perspective, I decided to write 40 lessons I've learned along the way and maybe these words can help someone else. They are in no particular order, except the first one....
1 - Always remember you are in control of nothing, but God is on your side so trust him.
2 - There is no failing, it is simply finding out what doesn't work.
3 - Give yourself credit, you have your s#$% together more than you think.
4 - BUDGET! Take the time to learn about money and revel in the joy of no debt.
5 - The right song can heal your heart more than any hours spent on a therapist's couch
6 - Know what you deserve and go for it, what others say be damned.
7 - Eating an entire carton of ice cream should not be considered dinner, portion control yo!
8 - Find perfection in your imperfections, love every bit of you
9 - You may stumble, and maybe throw a tantrum now and then, but then get the hell up!
10 - Save the drama for your momma....no not really, she don't wanna deal with it either
11 - Respect your elders, surprisingly, doesn't seem to apply when you use it on your siblings
12 - Allow yourself to make mistakes, it's in the mess you can find the message
13 - Never start a fight you can't finish, or if you do make sure you can outrun them
14 - Real love has nothing to do with sex and everything to do with acceptance with your clothes on
15 - Buy the damn purse - You know you want it, if you can afford it in your budget, BUY IT!
16 - Stay away from Tequila Rose ... nuff said
17 - You can have roots and wings, stretch them both
18 - Don't let fear hold you back from anything....unless its life threatening, then forget this one
19 - Put down the phone and enjoy the view without the filters....the real thing is so much prettier
20 - Darkness may try to get you, but never lose the light inside of you - you will make it through, I promise
21 - Don't be afraid to break the rules once in awhile, especially if they are rules you put in place
22 - Dance like no one is watching, odds are they are all drunk too and won't remember tomorrow
24 - Stop coming off as anti-social, break out of your shyness and show people the real you
25 - Read your heart out....never stop reading and dreaming and imagining
26 - Always believe in the power of your dreams, believe even moreso in your ability to achieve them
27 - A good bra does wonders, even if it's expensive, get it!
28 - Always find time to go fishing...even if the fish ain't biting
29 - Take the scenic route...ALWAYS!!
30 - Ask for advice, but always go with your gut
31 - Words are not just letters on a page, they are spoken and felt in the heart...they have power, weld that power carefully
32 - The canister of cinnamon rolls will not kill you, get over that fear sh#$
33 - lock your doors, lock your car, but never lock your heart
34 - make "What Would Dolly Do?" your mantra much sooner in life!
35 - You are only as old as you feel....so keep ice packs, hot packs, and ibuprofen on hand at all times
36 - Never give up on the possibility of miracles....they will change your life
37 - Surround yourself with color....live boldly, wear the hot pink like Beyonce is your middle name!
38 - Remember we are all just trying to figure out this journey we are each on, cut others some slack
39 - Find the good in every day, but most especially on the worst of days
40 - You didn't come this far, to only come this far....so keep going!