Monday, June 10, 2013

Lessons to Live by....

I know I've been silent for a bit lately, getting ready to engross myself in the writing process as tomorrow is the last day of school for my son and he's off to his dad's for a few weeks.  He'll be gone 2 weeks each month in the summer so though I'll miss him, that will be perfect writing time for me.

I haven't had any strokes of genius or words of wisdom to pass along lately, or at least nothing I thought anyone would want to hear.  Actually the motivating words for me lately have been those of my late Mamaw Miller.  May 20th was a year since her passing.  As a momento, I typed up a journal entry of hers and passed it along to her kids and grandkids.  Seems I wasn't the only writer in the family.  I have most of my grandmother's journals and it seems throughout she'd thought alot about her last entry ... as if she knew she'd be leaving her parting wisdom and wanted to say it just right. 

I thought I'd share her with you if that's okay.....

Ruth Miller’s Words to Live By …
Okay, its bed time and you are thinking it’s the worst day. But remember, it has passed. Tomorrow is another day, a brand new day and we have to see things as a clean sheet of paper. Only you can decide what’s written on that empty page. It’s up to you to make it dismal and dull or happy and bright. Take it one day at a time. Why do we think everything has to be our way all the time?

What makes us think everyone is out to get us? Maybe you don’t think that way all the time, just some of the time. Or “they don’t like me because my family doesn’t have money or fine things like they do.” Do you think that way? Or like “I am not going to have anything to do with him or her because I am better.” Are you?

Another thing, stop using others as your mirror. It’s how you view yourself that’s important in life. Isn’t it weird how we care so much about what others think of us? We let others put us into all sorts of categories. You have heard the labels: The Brains, The Jocks, The Nerds. But no one fits into a category. FOOD fits into a group, people don’t. So before you let someone else define you, remember they can only confine you. Don’t let them.

So we all have bad hair days. We think this day is one of the worst days of my life, is it? If so, be happy because if that’s the worst day of your life you must have had lots of good days. So if you have a bad hair day, get you a big floppy hat and wear it. You can always find something good in everything!

It all comes down to why is it so important to be right all the time. You know we put a lot of energy into it. We are right, others are wrong. You know most of us would be happier if we stopped focusing on proving ourselves right and focusing on making ourselves happy. Just think of all the fun you could have had in the time you saved by not arguing. What do you think? You and I know we all make mistakes. The key is to learn from your mistakes. You’re not to make the same mistakes again, that you deal with the consequences.

 We don’t want to look down on others and their mistakes because we can make the same ones. Anytime! What we must do in life is THINK! THINK before we say or do things to others, when we think “Would I want them to say them things about me?” Sometimes it hurts you more than the one we told on. What do you think others think of you now?

Some things to think about: 

We need to look around us and be thankful of what we have. 
What would you like to happen in your life? 
Would you like people to call you names, hit you, tell lies on you or would you want them to show you love? 

What is love? 

Love is caring, forgiving; love your neighbors as you love yourself.  Love is goodness.

I hope her words helped you today, I know they help me.

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